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How To Get Your Ex Back After A Breakup

1. Cease All Contact (No Text Messages Included).

You have to give your ex the time and space they need to sort things out.If you don’t, they’ll never miss you, and if they never miss you, they’ll never come back.

The interactions in our relationships are part of the fabric of our everyday routine. A 2010 study found that romantic love is an addiction, just like cigarettes, alcohol or gambling.

Breaking that addiction — at least for a little while — forces your ex to experience life without you, and it’ll give them the opportunity to consider whether the breakup was a good idea or whether it could have been saved by working on a few unaddressed problems. Either way, let your ex solve that by themselves without making them even more confused by contacting them.

Make sure you delete their number from your phone to eliminate any chances of calling or sending them a text message.

Remember the idea is to have no contact.

If you don’t want to sever all ties, then write down their number or email address and keep it in a drawer at home. Just make sure it’s enough of a process to reach out that you won’t do it impulsively when you’re feeling lonely.

You’re probably worried that your ex will just move on to someone new, but think of the times when you ended a relationship. You didn’t immediately move on to a new one, right? Trust me, your boyfriend or girlfriend isn’t going to go out and get married tomorrow. They’ll still be thinking of you as all exes do.

2. Focus On Your Body, Not Your Ex.

Your relationship ended because your ex decided the positive aspects of your relationship didn’t outweigh the negative ones. I know that’s tough to hear, but it’s the truth.

That doesn’t mean that the negatives are insurmountable, but it doesn’t hurt to assess and improve what you bring to a relationship.

Do something to get your blood pumping: go for a run, lift some weights, go hiking, whatever you prefer. Studies show that exercise can help drastically improve your mood, and trust me, you need the boost.

I know we romanticize brooding characters mourning their lost love, but it’s not as noble as they make it seem. Exercise is a good excuse to get out of the house and focus your energy on something other than the breakup.

Plus, in less than 30 days, you can make significant changes to your appearance if you put your mind to it. While you might not transform your entire body in that span of time, imagine the look on the face of your ex when they see you standing taller and more defined than ever before. The brain is hard wired to look for attractive mates, so use that to your advantage!

3. Get Your Mind Back.

You need to show your ex that you’ve become a better person since the last time you were together, not just a more physically fit person; when your ex reaches out, they won’t be impressed to hear about all the times you went to the gym. Use this opportunity to make yourself more well-rounded.

One of the impacts of a breakup is an identity crisis. It’s natural: the majority of your life revolved around your partner when you were together, and once that’s taken away, you might feel lost as to what to do next.

Maybe there’s something you’ve always wanted to do, like skydiving, learning to play an instrument, or running guns through eastern Europe. Whatever it is, now’s your time to do it, even if it’s just reading a book. You’ll feel more fulfilled by who you are as a person, and your confidence will improve fast.

Remember, when people break up with others, it’s usually because they don’t feel confident about their future with that person. They forecast that it won’t work out in the future because that other person isn’t going in the right direction.

When you start improving your mind and body, you shatter their idea of what you were going to become in the future.

If your ex is thinking: “Oh, they are never going to amount to anything” and suddenly you’re taking new classes, working on your body and mind, striving to become a better person, it breaks their reality and forces them to wonder.

4. Rebuild Existing Relationships.

Here’s a fun statistic: the average person loses eight friends in a breakup. Friends can help get you through the immediate aftermath, but over time, you need to start giving back to those friendships. Otherwise, you risk losing your friends along with your partner.

By using your friends as your support system after a breakup, you’re basically substituting one emotional crutch (your boyfriend or girlfriend) with another (your friends). Rather than making everything about your life, focus your attention on their lives.

Try to reconnect with old friends, too. Your ex may be irreplaceable, but research shows that the benefits of a romantic relationship (companionship, dependability and trust) can also be found in healthy friendships.

5: Build New Relationships.

You might be wondering, “How is dating going to get my ex back?" Your ex isn’t going to come back if they know your door is always open. It’s called the “scarcity principle”: the more available something is, the less demand there is for it.

Going on dates is not a mistake, even if you are missing your ex.

Dating doesn’t have to be serious. Casual dating is fine, as long as you make that clear to your dates.

Go on dates, have some fun and make your date laugh.

It may feel uncomfortable at first, like you’re cheating on your ex. But remember, you want your ex to feel “seller’s remorse”. By reentering the dating world, you’re signaling that you’re comfortable moving forward with your life without them.

6. Don’t Force the Issue With Ex.

Here’s the secret: the more comfortable you are without your ex, the more they’ll want you back.

Just like their decision to break up, the decision to reconcile is entirely in your ex’s hands. All you can do is focus on finding new ways to feel happy and fulfilled that aren’t tied to your relationship.

It’s tempting to want to reach out to your ex or gush on social media about how great life is going since the breakup. You think it might force your ex to realize that they’ve made a huge mistake. But it won’t work, sorry.

Either your ex will think you see your former relationship as a waste of time, or they’ll see it as a transparent attempt to play on their emotions in the hopes that they’ll have no choice but to date you again. Surprisingly, thinly-veiled disdain and/or emotional manipulation are not a winning combination.

Source: www.waytoosocial.com

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